Hello everyone! I wanted to discuss a topic that has been needed to be discussed for a long time now: resolving conflict.
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It’s important to know, since apparently a large amount of our population as you can see may not know how to do this, sadly, which brings me to the conclusion it should be thought out and reasoned. So I’ve put together a step by step guide on how to resolve conflict with one another.
It’s important not to have hateful ranting or emotional outburst when resolving conflict, as this only leads to more conflict and emotional retribution. Sometimes, we allow our emotions to get the best of us, it’s important to note it should not be used to rush into something before thought.
1. Go to the person
This is also, funnily, stated in Matthew 18:15, go to the person who offended you.
Do this in person, online the person cannot hear you and if they believe your tone to be any sort of way, they can also make your tone out to be something it was not.
2. When resolving the conflict, try to place yourself in the other person’s shoes. This can also be placed out as “do unto others” in Matthew 7:12, as well, and we should take heed to follow!
3. It’s best to do so privately, so as not to try to gain attention from others around. This can look bad on you as well as the other person. If the person will not reason with you, however, take others to them. (Matthew 18:16)
It takes humbleness to do this! It’s difficult to let someone know they wounded you! It’s best to resolve the conflict before it simmers. Pray for the person, pray before you go to them. (Matthew 5:44) (Matthew 6:5)
4. Try to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements.
This advice was given me by an instructor, it’s important to say things like “this made me feel…”, or “this hurt me”, as any other way can sound degrading.